a (love) life trivia

night, folks!

before i start, i just want to say that i put my big condolences who happens to be the victim of the Malaysia airlines MH17 plane crash in Ukraine. may the victims can rest in peace and their families are given the strength from god to accept it and bear the pain that lingering in their chest and then moving along. and also this case would be solved immediately so the criminal could be caught and have the punishment as worth as the pain in the victims' families' hearts

so,
i just watched several korean dramas and variety shows and  read various novels that contain at least 15 percent of romance in it because of my boredom with this super duper long holiday (that apparently eats me alive.)
as a person who dislikes romance genre i'm so proud of myself that i didn't get to vomit repeatedly while watching/reading those. instead i found an intriguing trivia that makes me wonder of how people would react with that if they face the same case in the same  situation, with the same question.

before i get that to the point. i'm pretty sure some of you would ask why i watch and read dramas that i dislike them in the first place?

well, the answers are:
1. fandom-ing a person in order to get a grip for not to be too vulnerable because of the holiday
2. curiosity.

it's funny how a vulnerability (and boredom) can lead you into curiosity and reveals a whole new world that you never intend to touch before

so, moving on:

after observing episodes for episodes, the meaning and the moral value, i really wanna ask you guys this:

if you want to have a normal relationship like the other human being, you really want someone that will accompany you without any objections for the rest of your life, the one that you will adore and love no matter how hard the condition will get rough eventually, if you really have to blindly choose, who would you choose:

the one that you're familiar with, like a person who knows you really well and you know her/him really well and there's not even a slightest awkwardness come to both of you

or

the one, that no matter you know the person is, always makes your heart flustered? as in often or even always surprised you, both in positive and negative ways?

who would you choose?

you can take a time to answer that question before you scrolling down to know what is my real intention of asking that.



actually, the reason why i ask such a random question like that is because of my curiosity (again) from korean drama "Emergency Couple" starring Song Ji Hyo and Choi Jin Hyuk, in the scene where song ji hyo is faced with 2 different people , the one who's familiar and the one who makes her flustered, and both of them like her. and also from so many tv series like reply 1997, innocent man, or even how i met your mother (though it's not that subtle)
 i realized that this kind of thing, the simple problem of love, which is choosing a choice, is often found in the reality of our life.

i wonder how we react if we're facing a problem like that.

well, before i wrote this i asked my several friends by IM, and not surprisingly, their answers are different to one another.
there's my friend who choose the familiar one,
and there's my friend who choose the fluster-er one
and there's my friend who choose both of the factor, as if he's so sure he would get that both factor in the same person.
and me, i didn't choose either of them. because i'm way too coward to conclude what's really in my heart since i don't have anyone close or anyone who gets me flustered all the time.

it's funny how different reacts can bring a one big beautiful relationship in the end of the day.

from my friend who choose the first one, he said that the familiar one is the one who can comfort him. at the end of the day, he would choose the one he close with. as long as he feels comfortable, a boredom is not a major problem for him. he can always fight it out. because it's not easy, meeting someone who can make you as comfy as your spring bed in the morning. he doesn't want to look for another one while there is someone who is close with him and not awkward when he's around.

for those of you who choose the first one, i bet those kind of reasons that linger in your mind. it means that you always longing for your home. your blanket that comforts you every night, you want a person who knows all over you, so you don't have to pretend anymore around her/him. you're not so much of a challenge. when there's a comfy bed with a warm cup of tea, why have to get up and search for the crowd, and seek for more happiness? as long as you're calmed down and in a peaceful state of being, it's a much of happiness for you.


from my friend who choose the second one, he said that love does need a spark. a thing that always make your heart thumps. a thing that would make him gets the butterflies in his tummy. a lovable awkwardness towards each other. the one who will never bore him. always comes out with something that makes him love her again and again. sometimes the familiar one can't provide you that. and the fluster one can be also a familiar one in the end of the day.

for those of you who choose the second one, it more likely means that you always search for a new challenge of life. the things that can always make you feel so alive, so you don't die in boredom. you are a dynamic person. a spotlight lover. no matter how bad or how dangerous it is, if the thing can make you to be a brand new person with a better filling, why waste a time to stay in one comfy place? happiness in all over the place and you have to earn it. move along.

buat orang yang milih keduanya (gue capek nulis sok sok pake bahasa inggris. niatnya pengen latian biar kece tapi otaknya malah njlimet sendiri), itu beda lagi. selama gue ga ngucapin di atas untuk pilih salah satu, dia yakin ada orang di luar sana yang punya kedua hal itu. yg deket sama dia dan sekaligus selalu bikin surprise dia. biasanya orang2 yg milih 22nya tipikal yg optimistis, selama bisa punya 22nya, kenapa harus milih salah satu? emangnya cuma ada 2 tipe orang di dunia ini? dunia ga sekaku itu men. org yg milih 2 juga tipe tipe picky dan dreamer, sekaligus kadang oportunis. mereka perceive banyak hal dan ngegabungin jadi 1. ato biasanya, orang ini udah punya tambatan hati sendiri ato bahkan gapernah pacaran jadi gatau rasanya gimana hehehe.

tapi pernah ga, kamu yang milih familiar mikir, kalo kamu bakal kejebak boredom berkepanjangan, dan berujung berantem lalu berakhir? apa dia selalu ngasi selimut itu buat kamu? apa kamu bener bener yakin dia orang yang kamu kenal deket di hidup kamu?

buat kamu yang milih nomer 2, gimana kalo yang kamu pilih itu ternyata zonk? awalnya doang selalu bikin km surprise dan degdegan. as time goes by, perilaku mereka juga goes by juga. tetep bikin degdegan sih, tapi dalam hal negatif. kayak mereka selingkuh gitu misalnya, ato ngapain. ato misalnya kamu lg capek dan dia gatau timing dengan bikin surprise ttg hal yang kamu ga suka? gimana kalo akhirnya kamu benci krn perilaku mereka yg kelewat batas?

untuk yang milih 22nya, bos. stop dreaming and get a grip. kalopun ada org itu ga bakal seoptimal yg lo bayangin. pasti akan lebih cenderung ke salah satu. ke orang yang lo kenal deket smp dalem dalem tp biasa aja, ato orang yang selalu bikin lo ngeflux tapi dia misterius dan lo gapernah tau sampe ke dalem dalemnya dia.


kalo di film ya, in the end of the movie, the main character choose the one who she's familiar with, di emergency couple, di reply 1997, di himym, kecuali di innocent man krn yg dia familiarin itu kejemnya minta ampun gue ampe ngutuk2 sendiri (nonton aja deh), selalu milih yg bikin nyaman. dengan harapan dia bisa ngebina yg lebih dari sekedar temen, dan selalu dapet kehangatan yg sama tanpa ngerubah apapun.

tapi, dalam realitanya, banyak yang meninggalkan orang yang dia kenal deket buat orang yang ngebuat dia mabok cinta, dan akhirnya mereka hidup bahagia, ga pernah bosen, selalu jatuh cinta berulang kali, dan beberapa ngaku kalo mereka jd orang yg familiar buat org itu, meski ga sedeket dan sekenal orang yang pertama.

in the end, love is as funny as choosing sides, but the execution is not as simple as we imagine. we often trap with our own blind feelings and logic, we can't comprehend what is wise and what isn't.

so, may i ask you once again, after reading the reasoning behind it

jika lo dihadapkan dengan 2 orang, either mereka suka sm lo ato lo bingung yang mana yg lo harus kejar buat diseriusin lebih dari temen. yang mana yang bakal lo pilih?

yang lo kenal deket banget, ato yang bikin lo selalu jatuh cinta?

whatever you choose, or think, in the end it will always depend on what your heart says. this posting won't change anything in your love life because love is not always those 2 things, there will always be another factor that comes for you. makes you even more confused yet so thrilled.

because love is the moment of an unspeakable spark of truth. made by your deep down heart, without you can even sort it like you sort your work archives.

you don't lie to such a sacred feeling like that.

i warn you,
don't you dare lying about it.